Finding love again after losing a spouse or loved one is a difficult journey. With the right support and patience, it can lead to a fulfilling relationship with the perfect partner. This personal and inspirational article, written by Christina Rasmussen, explains what you can expect when looking for love again.
Phase 1: The ‘I’ll Never Love Again Phase
Yep. I repeated those words several times. You can imagine that I moved my hands and shook my head a lot, as I am a very animated person. Every time I said it, I meant it. We can’t imagine loving someone else when we have lost someone we love so much. It is almost impossible to imagine the possibility of a new love. After a loss, you can’t possibly feel love. You are numb. You can’t imagine loving anyone. You feel more anxiety than pleasure when you try. You feel incapable of love.
Phase 2: The Fear Phase
When I first felt a tiny glimmer of love for my husband, I was immediately filled with fear. It felt like I was having a panic attack. I used to never have panic attacks, so I thought I was going crazy. In the beginning, I was more scared than in love. Because of this, I was not nice to him initially. I was not loving and very difficult.
Phase 3: Angels Only Allowed
The person you choose must be able to accept you as you are and show gratitude for having you in their life. Your trauma, anxiety, and temporary numbness will be understood. They must be patient and be the most amazing person you’ve ever met. They are the only people who can get into your heart. Can you see the link? By allowing these amazing people to enter our lives, we are letting ourselves know what we’re worth. You should avoid anyone who doesn’t fit this profile. It is better to stay alone if you can’t find people who will love you for who you are today.
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